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7: inner child therapy treatments
What is the Inner Child?
The inner child may also be regarded as a sub personality. It develops at a time of very limited understanding of the world and very little power. The child relies on parents or other adults for protection, love, food and other basic necessities. If these are not provided, the child may feel that it is struggling for its very existence. Different situations in life provide challenges that must be faced, however, with an undeveloped body and mind and lack of support, the child reaches an impasse; a challenge it cannot meet. The child has no coping strategy for this trauma or conflict, so the mind stores the memory and dilemma somewhere in the mind that we will call the ‘Inner Child’. Each trauma or conflict may create a slightly different inner child at a different stage of life.
How does the therapy work?
My intuitive abilities allow me to contact the inner child directly. There is no speculation, simply direct experience. Where a client is not making significant changes despite several sessions, it is useful to work with the inner child. For many years I have found that the inner child may block all the healing transformations that the client requires simply because it is emotionally stuck. Often it feels unsafe to change or it is angry and emotional. The child was unable to resolve an issue or situation, as it has no coping strategy. Since the situation causes extreme stress and thereby threatens his/her survival, the mind finds another coping strategy and that is to shelve this persona/ part of life/ inner child until a solution is found. Unless we direct our work at this part of the person, it remains untouched and unhealed.
Sometimes as you work with the inner child and resolve the issues at that earliest time, you will see the next traumatic stage in their life. ‘Joanne’ was shown to me at age 5 or 6, trembling with fear. As we resolved her fears we moved to the age of 12 then 15, 19 and then at the age of 21. At each stage, she had been unable to cope and see any solution to her problems. Joanne recognised herself in the descriptions and gained a new perspective of her life but more importantly, the inner child was released from the darkness of fear and trauma.
There are many techniques for working with the inner child. You need to trace or intuit the correct stages to work with, in order to resolve the issues of this important sub personality.
How might this work in practice?
As I worked with ‘Mary’, I saw a little girl, no older than 3years. She was dirty and screaming to be let out, banging on a door in a small dark place. Mary told me that her father would beat her then shut her in the coalhouse. As I worked with Mary and her inner child to change perceptions and to heal, I saw the child let herself out of the coal shed and sit in the front garden playing in the mud and making mud pies. When an adult tried to come out of the house she bombarded them with the pies! Not only did Mary change her perspective but the inner child also found her coping strategy and released her anger.
‘Helen’ had an inner child but I struggled to find her. Helen was blond but the little girl I saw had dark curly hair. As I looked closer, I saw Helen underneath the other girl. The description I gave fitted the client’s sister who was the favourite of the family, strong and domineering. She took Helen’s toys and bullied her and there was nothing that Helen could do!
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